Boundaries Are Important

 

Friends!  I can not stress enough that setting and enforcing boundaries in your life is essential for your happiness and mental health.  This took me years to learn and implement in my own life, both at work and in my personal life.  There have been a lot of hard lessons learned but I refused to keep the pattern going.      

It doesn't take long to figure out when someone has crossed the line but often times we live with it because we don't know how to enforce change. The saying is true, we teach people how to treat us.  What we allow is what they will continue to do. Many times this will go on for so long that we feel exhausted, burnt out, disrespected, and hopeless. 

Whether it is family, friends, or co-workers, you deserve to be treated with respect.  This takes communication from you as to what is being done that you feel disrespected.  That it is not ok.  If the behavior continues and you voiced your concerns feel free to distance yourself from that behavior.  

I have a friend who has been struggling with boundaries at her place of employment.  She has recognized that she has created an environment where others do not respect her time.  They constantly interrupt her as they want their needs met in the moment regardless of what she is working on.  She has always stopped and handled their questions/needs without any regard for what she is working on and the deadlines she has to meet.  She is going to put systems in place where this will change.  This will take her being vigilant and not going back to old habits.  She may get some resistance at first but I believe once she retrains the folks around her, she will be less stressed and her mental health will improve tremendously. 

The boundaries we put in place are only as good as how we enforce them.  I often see on social media posts about people being tired of this, tired of that.  What are you doing about it? 

I promise you, if you start setting and enforcing healthy boundaries for your own mental health and happiness you will see all of those things change in the picture above. You are worth it! 

Be BOLD and set those boundaries!!