Debbie Boisey, never forgotten

 Most of you know that Debbie passed away last Sunday, November 26, 2023.  Although I knew the last time I saw her that the road to recovery would be a very long one and I questioned what kind of life she would have if there was a recovery, I wasn't expecting for her to pass so quickly.  I am still perplexed about the circumstances around her death and unfortunately, I do not think she received the best care while she was in the hospital. My family can not tell you exactly what the cause of death was. I am interested in seeing what it lists on the death certificate.  Communication with the staff was absolutely horrible and many times left more questions than answers. Nonetheless, she is gone and now the family is left to pick up the pieces.   

I am not an anxious person but I have had anxiety ever since I stepped into her hospital room and she was lying there deceased.  It was just heartbreaking. Seeing the hurt in her family's eyes, words and tears has literally broken my heart.  I know that pain all too well and to know they are feeling it breaks me.  I am a fixer and there is absolutely nothing I can do to take that pain away.  I pray, check on them, call, and text but it will never be enough.  Losing someone you love is devastating, it is the price of loving so hard.  

I say this all of the time but life is short, it really is.  You never know when it will be your time to go or when it is time for your loved ones to pass on.  This thing called life is on borrowed time. I understand that as I have suffered great losses in my life.  Love while you can, communicate your feelings, make memories, find joy in the little things, and know when the hard times come you will get through and most of the time stronger than before. Love yourself, speak positivity over yourself, forgive yourself.

Debbie has been in my life since I was 5 years old. I was talking to my brother a couple days ago and I told him, it has always been Jonnie and Debbie.  It just flows right out of my mouth.  It breaks my heart that the "and Debbie" will never mean the same. 

Deb, rest in peace and enjoy pain-free living. Give mom and dad a big hug and kiss for me.  I know they were so happy to see you.  I love you!